From Interracial Voice: Dating Preferences

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From: [e-mail]
Date: Fri, 1 Oct 1999
Subject: Dating Preferences

First, the most important "preferences" I have when dating is that the young
lady be intelligent, kind hearted and open-minded. That being said, my
racial preference has evolved based on my experiences. Trying to be a
dutiful and grateful mulatto (for lack of a better term), who was forced from
birth to designate myself as "black," I dated black women, and made it my
personal policy to avoid lighter women. Lest my loyalty be questioned. I
found black women as attractive as any other women.

However, too many times I ran into the wall of ignorance, either from the
woman, her family or the black community at large. In the capital of black
racism, Washington, DC, I was looked upon as a good stud to produce light
babies, or I was a "white boy wannabe," trying to steal a Nubian Queen. So,
I started dating "white" and Asian women. But no! I was not going to get
away that easy. I suddenly found myself being called a traitor because there
were "too many good black sistah's going without."

That is when I woke up. I realized I too had 3 good sisters who could not
get dates because they were a few shades too light. Either they were being
accused of stealing black men, or turning their backs on black men. d**ned
if you do, d**ned if you don't. What did I do? I followed my heart and my
head. I purposely began to pursue mulatto women, and have not looked back.

I realized something I knew all along, I think mulatto women are the best.
I love their intelligence, hearts, dreams and desires. I love their "good"
hair. I love their skin tone. I love how we match. I like how I will not
cringe when she opens her mouth to speak. I like the fact that I can walk
into a public place and use my "privilege" I like how the woman I am with
understands my dreams and joys, as well as my pains. I no longer hide from
the truth.

To some who read this I may sound color struck, but I do not care! Why is it
okay for a "white" man to say he prefers blondes, or a "black" man to say he
wants a Nubian Queen, without being labeled? It is because we are not
supposed to like our appearance or be attractive to each other. We are only
useful to serve as a "trophy wife," or add a little cream to the coffee. How
dare we procreate with each other!

We are not being loyal to the people who have allowed us into their club.
Thanks but no thanks, I will make up my own mind on who I am supposed to see.

You keep your beautiful Lauren Hills, I will take my Michael Michelle's any
day.
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From: A.D. Powell [e-mail]
Date: Thursday, October 07, 1999
Subject: Counterpoint - Dating Preferences

I find it significant that the American "Mulatto" group is the only
population that gets criticized for marrying each other. "Blacks" get all
emotional and rave against the supposed "color prejudice" of "Mulattoes"
who exclude them as mates. However, all the other groups exclude "blacks"
even more and there is no rage against them. There are dating services
that cater exclusively to Jews who want to marry other Jews. No one thinks
ill of a Chinese, Indian, Arab or whatever who says that he/she wants to
marry someone with the same background. Personal ads freely say that a
"white" male wants to meet a "white" female, etc. However, let an American
"Mulatto" state a preference for others of a similar mixture, phenotype or
whatever, and watch the excrement hit the fan! Why the double standard?